I have a confession to make… I did not always respect women.
In fact for many years I was a really “nice guy”… That had a lot of ulterior motives.
When I finally learned this medicine of respect… Creator brought my dream partner into my life…
So this week, when I was the only man sitting in a circle of women… I felt deeply humbled and honored.
I sat in a state of total awe… I felt like a child who was experiencing life for the first time.
The sacred fire provided a warm presence… I could feel the heat on my face, even from 3 feet away!
I turned my head to the left and then to the right… Yep. I was the only man here!
It was strange… I was “out of place” so to speak, yet I felt at home. This is exactly where I was meant to be…
This was a women’s group, my partner has been leading the last 4 1/2 months through the 7 Teachings.
7 Months, 7 Teachings…
They are currently working through the 5th month, and the 5th teaching… Respect.
This is not an easy month, because we have to take responsibility for our disrespectful behavior…
In fact, it is commonly where people will “drop out” of this program…
This is also the month that provides some of the deepest breakthroughs.
I felt a surge of energy move through me, like electricity… I felt high… Like I had just taken a big cup of medicine…
Spirit started sharing through me…
I talked about the power of respect… and disrespect… As a man. And in the context of intimate relationships…
Men are not taught to respect women… In fact, we are taught the opposite.
There is tremendous pain, trauma and suffering because men no longer respect women…
And we do not know how to respect ourselves…
A single moment of disrespect from a man, especially Sexually, can change a woman’s life forever.
Women are the Carriers of Life… Women are Sacred…
They are beautiful and they are powerful. More powerful than men…
In fact, my Elders have taught me women are 13x as powerful as men…
So we need to respect all women.
The way a Man treats a woman is the way he will treat the Waters of this planet…
Look at how a Man treats his partner, and you will learn everything you need to know about him…
Men: Look at every woman as your Grandmother… Your Mother… Your Sister…. Your Daughter…
How would you want a man to treat these women? Be that man.
It really is as simple as that.
Women: Take a stand, and demand respect from the men in your life. Set boundaries, say no…
If he is being disrespectful, have the self respect to use your voice, set boundaries and walk away.
Learn to love yourself and to be alone.
Practical Wisdom For Learning Respect:
- Healthy Boundaries and Saying “No” are how we learn to respect ourselves… Honoring other people’s boundaries and their “no” is how we learn to respect others…
- When we feel/believe we “need something” from another person (validation, intimacy, connection, companionship)… We will disrespect ourselves and that person to get our needs met. Self Respect starts with Self Reliance.
- Learn to be Alone with ZERO screen time… Furthermore, learn to LOVE being alone… At first, being alone without distractions will be uncomfortable. Find a Joyful way to be alone.
- Low Self worth drives disrespectful behavior… When we never “feel good enough”… Then no one and nothing is ever “good enough” for us. This drives insecurity and attachment issues… Which is the primary cause of disrespect.
- When you build a strong connection with Spirit, Nature & your Soul, you will build a strong sense of self-worth… You will have a natural radIance and confidence that is SELF SOURCED… And is not dependent on people, places or things.
Was this helpful? What is your experience with Respect (and disrespect)? Let me know!
Talk soon,
Robbie
PS – Would you like to work together? I have a few spots open for 1:1 work and a waitlist for my upcoming group starting soon.
